What is the typical mentality of the Indian society?

Daughter : Mom, my mother in law is very bad, she always makes me do all the household chores, I come home, all tired from office and then have to take care of all the housework also, she doesn’t even let my husband help me, even if he wants to. And she doesn’t even let me come home whenever I wish to.

DIL : Yes maaji, I will just start. Also, I need to go home for Rakhi tomorrow.

Mom : It’s because of your phone.

Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support. I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized. he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that. he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened. he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence. i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction. after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly. things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it. we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe … our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far? this has upset me so much its hard to even function.

Mom : Bhaiya, what is the price of this suit ?

Lady : (Clearly upset), sure no problem, here.

Thank you so much everyone for reading this answer, I hope you like it.

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Instead of blaming the girls, why don’t we teach our boys some values and tell them to respect every girl like their own sister and mother so that no girl has to go through such atrocities ever again ! Why are their mistakes always overlooked just because they are “ghar ka kudeepak.”

DIL : (clearly frustrated) Of course maaji, I’ll just bring the tea and snacks.

Interview at an XXX Indian MNC :

Can you describe your experience taking the AIPMT/NEET entrance exam? Did you feel nervous or afraid while entering the examination hall and writing the exam?

Interviewer : Because you don’t know how to speak fluent English, that’s why you answered all the questions in Hindi. We need somebody absolutely fluent in English for the job, to hold meetings with our overseas clients.

Shopkeeper : Mam, 800 Rs.

If the mother here, being a mother to her daughter, wants her daughter’s MIL to take care of her daughter and respect her demands and choices then should she also, being a MIL to her DIL, do the same for her ? Why the double standards ?

What do you think of a parent telling their adult child to “keep their personal life to themselves” in relation to talking to them? No reason they should say that it was mean what should I do?

“Men don’t shed tears”

DIL : Maaji, at least let me sit for a while, I have just come home, after a very tiring day at office.

Police officer : Brother, I can’t do that, the domestic violence complaint is for WOMEN.

I refuse to date any women that are social media influencers, content creators, TikTok celebrities, and use Only fans. Would this be seen as normal, or would I be going too far? Why?

Applicant 2 : Gives a very vague answer, tells nothing about the stats, not many details, nothing about his contribution, but, uses great English vocabulary words in his answer.\

The status of regional languages is improving a lot

Me : Mom, I feel tired, I have anxiety and depression.

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Lady to girls : I am the co founder and CEO of XXX MNC, you can look it up on Google, so yes I can definitely afford a Business class ticket and the next time you decide to make comments on anybody just based on their appearance, do think twice about it. May you have a good day.

Police officer : Well, that’s how the system works, I am sorry, I can’t do anything to help you.

Why do nice guys rarely or never win?

Me : Mom, I scored less marks.

See the double standards here ? This is the story of most of the households, around us.

Aunty B : Why on Earth did you even allow her to leave home so late at night ?

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Mom : Don’t worry darling, I’ll talk to them, my daughter is not their maid and how can they disallow her from coming back to her own home.

Girl 1 to Girl 2 : Yeah, as if people like her can afford a business class ticket, I’m sure she is in economy, it must be her first time travelling and she wouldn’t even be knowing of the different classes in a plane. Proceeds to call an airline staff member.

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Aunty A : This is what happens when they give girls too much of freedom !

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Man : Please file a complaint for DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.

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Shopkeeper : Mam, nothing less than a 700.

Mom : Give it to me for 200 Rs.

This fear of society, that every Indian lives with, where was this society when that poor girl was being r*ped and torture, why didn’t they come to save her? To save her, to support her, to empower her? Why did they turn a blind eye to everything the girl was going through and then suddenly came forward to blame her ?

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Man : She becomes very violent sometimes, you please file a complaint against her.

And “Leaving the job part”, why, just why, is a girl expected to leave the job, the career that she had parents had worked so hard for, put in as much efforts as the boys and just sit at home to be an ideal DIL and take care of the in laws and children. Why ?

Someone please make these insolent people understand that the girl has been r*ped for God sake, she is literally fighting for her life there and you all here, instead of supporting her parents in their difficult time, are busy criticizing and taunting the girl.

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Okay so the last two were to end this answer on a lighter note.

“Men don’t need a shoulder for support”

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In this male - dominated society of ours, men are always supposed to be macho men, strong men who can’t cry, can’t express their emotions and can’t express themselves.

Police officer : Brother, we deal with real cases here. You are a man, be a man, how can your wife hit you, huh ?

Our traditional clothes like saree are being worn across the world

Mom : So, what do I do it was your decision to continue your job, I told you to leave it, you only said that you can manage both home and office, now do it !

Man : Arey, why is it for women, it’s DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, NOT WOMEN VIOLENCE, anybody can be a prey to Domestic violence, be it man or woman.

Son : I’m going to help her.

The husband obeys his mother and sits down. After some time, when the DIL arrives from the kitchen along with a tray full of tea and snacks.

Tears and emotions are not gender defined people. Anyone can feel the need to cry or the need for a support then why are men, who express their emotion looked down upon.

Mom : No buts, no means no ! End of topic.

The social condition of r*pe survivors has improved greatly

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Girl 1: Hey aunty, I think you’re in the wrong line, the economy line is that way.

Well, typical Indian mentality states that if you are in a market, you bargain, bargain, bargain, till the time you don’t reach at least 50% of the price, buying anything for more than that is nothing less than a crime !!

Mom : It’s because of your phone.

Uncle A : This girl has left us with no face to show in the society !

Our society has reached a sad state that everybody now, is judged and stereotyped based on their appearance and if by mistake somebody wears Indian traditional clothes like saree and suit, Oh God, they are considered to be so illiterate, having no class, etc. etc. The mindset is that one who wears jeans top, middy etc., and western clothes like these is sophisticated an classy and rest everyone is just uncouth.

Then, her daughter in law comes home from office with her husband.

Staff : Okay mam, I’ll go and check.

A random Mausi : Hey, what is your daughter doing these days ?

Let’s start this answer by discussing some hypothetical scenarios :

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At an airport, the business class line, 2 so-called model like girls wearing high heels and carrying dozens of suitcases and an old woman dressed up in a simple saree

At a random relative’s wedding

Lady : No miss, I am standing in the right line, I know very well which one is my line.

Aunty A : Now how are we going to find a groom for this girl ? We are doomed, now no one is going to marry her !!

Mausi : Ahh okay, nice, nice. Now don’t mind me, but take care of her a little, she how fat she has become, and she is already 30 now, shouldn’t she be married already?

They will only be pleased when you toss your phone in the fire and never, ever look at it again.

“Oh, she had a divorce, and the husband was cheating on her, she must have not served him enough”

Mom : Arey…..it’s been so many years since your marriage and you still want to go home every year for Rakhi, now who will prepare the food and take care of the house while you’re gone, I can’t do everything at this age and my daughter has just come home. No need to go home this year.

Applicant 1 : (in Hindi) Sir, please be honest with me, my answer for the deciding question, was clearly better than Applicant 2, I am even more qualified than him for the position, still why was he chosen for the position?

Aunty A : She doesn’t even wear saree and suit, madam only wants to wear jeans top.

Interviewer : Thank you so much, Applicant 2 your turn now.

So let this new generation of ours use this education and knowledge which we are gaining for some good purpose in the society. Let’s use it, to bring a change to the patriarchal mindset of the society, regarding various social norms and let’s normalize the things which are right but don’t fit into the current social norms.

“Be a man, don’t cry”

And what the heck was even her fault ? That she went out late at night, to do what, probably her job ? Probably for some important work ……. yes, maybe it was her fault that she didn’t remember what kind of a male dominant society did she live in, one which only blames girls for whatever happens,

Staff : Hmm, everything seems to be in place, thank you mam.

DIL : But…..

Mom : Yeah, yeah, you’re right, we’ll think about it soon.

Police officer : Who is the victim, your sister?

Staff to Lady : Hello mam, there seems to be some issue, could I please have a look at your ticket ?

When the daughter’s husband doesn’t help her, she doesn’t like it but she wouldn’t even allow her own son to help his wife. Isn’t this such a hypocritic behaviour and what the heck is the problem with men doing household chores, if the women can work outside and then do household chores then why can’t men do the same. Why is the thought of a man doing household chores glorified so much, it’s a job, if men can do the same work for pay then why not without pay, at home ? Why is the DIL always expected to manage everything alone, without any support ?

My mom : She is working at XXX Company, her package is good.

Mom : Great, now make preparations for the dinner too, make all of my daughter’s favourite dishes.

Interviewer : So tell me why would XXX MNC progress more than YYY MNC in the next 10 years and what would be your contribution in it if we hire you.

Typical Indian mentality says, that if anything is wrong with you, according to your parents, your phone is the one and only cause.

The husband proceeds to help her

Mom : She wants to focus on her career for a few years, then she will think about marriage.

But there’s one thing I would like to say,

Our regional languages have a rich history and extensive literature, often predating English. Why, then, do we look down on those who speak these languages? These individuals may be scholars in their native tongues, so why are they considered illiterate and uncouth?

Mom to DIL : Oh good, you have come at the right time. My daughter has also come home today, go and make some tea for all of us.

Applicant 1 : Gives a beautiful answer, along with all the stats and details, but in Hindi.

How often have men heard this ?

Mom : It’s because of your phone.

The difference in behaviour the mom has, for her own daughter and for DIL.

Me : Mom, I am having a stomach ache.

“Oh, the marriage was called off, the girl must have done something, she must be having an affair with somebody”

Mom : Pack it for 400, otherwise I’m going.

Man : Yes, I am the victim, my wife beats me very much. I want to lodge a complaint of domestic violence against her.

Me : Mom, I am having a headache.

“Oh, she left her in laws’ home and came to live with her parents, her mother hasn’t given any sanskar”

Police officer : Sorry, I think I didn’t hear you right.

The craze for speaking English these days, damn, I tell you. From school to office to everywhere, we are expected to speak so fluently in English and anybody not doing this is considered illiterate, not having class, uncouth and whatnot. As if Hindi speaker now, don’t have a place in the society. In school we are taught to say only Good morning to teachers and “Hi” and “Hello” to friends if any child says phrases like “Hare Krishna” or “Ram Ram”, the criticism and laughs he/she has to face, is just pitiful.

“You’re a man, fight back”

People are becoming more open to a gender equal society

“Oh, you are not able to have a child, the girl must be infertile”

Me : Mom, I hurt myself while playing cricket.

A girl named X is a r*pe survivor, this is the conversation between her relatives and her parents, when she is in the ICU flighting for her life.

Uncle B : How are we going to face the society now ?

Interviewer : Applicant 2, you are hired.

Aunty B : Of course, that’s when boys are attracted. It will not happen if they leave home in proper clothes.

Honestly, this obsession with Western culture needs to be stopped, it has reached such an extent now that people have forgotten Indian culture. Our beautiful Indian culture needs to be remembered and cherished, if all this continues then that day is not far when we would have been totally cut off from our roots and just like no tree can survive without its roots, similarly no nation can thrive if the people are not connected to their roots, their culture and sanskriti.

Man : No, I am.

Mom : It’s because of your phone.

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Mausi : See, I am just saying for her own good, it is already difficult to find a good groom these days, and with her age and figure, it is gonna be even more difficult to find a good groom for her.

But what about the man who has always been taught by his mother to respect women and never raise hand on any girl, whatever might be the situation ? How does he defend himself ?The society doesn’t support him, the law doesn’t support him, even his own family doesn’t support him, whom should he turn to for help?

How many times have we all heard this ? Why, just why, are girls always at fault, why can’t anybody ever see the boys’ faults. And I’m not saying that it is always the boys’ faults, many a times even girls are at fault but if the boys are at fault then also why are the girls blamed.

Mom : Where are you going son ?

I am not criticizing English here, at all, English is a global language and should be learnt by all to communicate with people from different countries. But if someone from India wants to talk to someone else from India in any regional language, be it, Hindi, Bengali, Kannada, Tamil, Telegu, Malayalam, Marathi, anything, and both the parties involved, know the language, then what’s the necessity to talk in English ? Why can’t they simply communicate in the regional language ?

Mom : Arey, no need for that, you have just come home all tired from office and now you want to help your wife with the household chores. Men don’t do all this work. Come and chat with your sister, she has come home after such a long time.

Mom : It’s because of your phone.

A man filing a complaint at the police station.

Girl 1: You see that lady there, she seems to be in the wrong line, she should be in the economy one.

Interviewer : Okay fine, go ahead.

Applicant 1: Sir, sir, could I please ask you something ? Just one moment sir.

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These days, when the cases of women, harassing men for money in the name of domestic violence and abuse are increasing so much, men too need the support of the law to defend themselves.

As an Indian girl, if you are unmarried after the age of 30, the society is not gonna spare you and your family. Everywhere you go, you are are going to be taunted and criticized for not finding a husband already and all your achievements and career progress will be overlooked, all the hard work that you’ve done, for yourself and your family will be put into trash because according to society - “Marriage is the only thing a girl should be worried about and that is the only thing which defines her.” And the double standard here is, that a man could be even 50 and unmarried, still he wants to marry a 25 year old girl only.

Shopkeeper : Okay mam, take it.

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Staff : Yes mam, what seems to be the issue ?

A mother and daughter are sitting in the living room of their home and chatting.

Applicant 1: (Smiles and says in very fluent English) Oh sir, so that’s the only reason. I thought I lacked some capability for the job. I always give all my interviews in Hindi because I hold immense respect for my mother tongue and my roots, I want the company to hire me for my abilities and achievements and not for my linguistic skills. And yes, who said I can’t speak English. I can, very well speak fluently in English. Thank you so much for your time.

And beaten by wife ? That can’t even be a statement dammit, how the heck are you a man if you are beaten by your wife, slap her back, punish her, instill your fear in her, that’s what the society says.

After the interview gets over :

Thought the instances I mentioned above are common to most of Indians, but it is not right to categorize all of us as one, we all are different, we have different cultures and different upbringings. Though there are many flaws in our patriarchal mindset, but I’m glad to say that the society is changing now,